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The Issue With Being Black and Kinky
BDSM educator and male dominant Orpheus Black writes about the long history of conservative attitudes toward sex among many BIPOC and his own experience of being ostracized by family and friends when they discovered he was poly and kinky.
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Chills Down My Spinal Degeneration: Why We Need Black Queer Disabled Kink
Jade T. Perry explains the benefits of kink for people with disabilities: “It was Blackqueerdisabledkink knowledge that taught me how revolutionary my bed could be.”
Fetish & Submission from a Black Person’s Perspective
Performance artist and porn performer Bishop Black explains what it’s like to buck certain stereotypes as a Black male sub in the kink scene.
Fifty Shades of Nope: Being Fetishized as a Person of Color in Kink
This article by Vianca Masucci addresses the negative influence of the Fifty Shades franchise on BDSM practitioners generally and people of color specifically. She recounts multiple anecdotes of being fetishized and stereotyped within the kink community.
HANKERCHIEF CODE
The handkerchief code (also known as the hanky code, the bandana code, and flagging) is a color-coded system, employed usually among the gay male casual-sex seekers or BDSM practitioners in the United States, Canada, and Europe, to indicate preferred sexual fetishes, what kind of sex they are seeking, and whether they are a top/dominant or bottom/submissive. The hanky code was widely used in the 1970s by gay and bisexual men, and grew from there to include all genders and orientations.
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The hanky code has seen a revival, with colors now influencing leather and fetish gear choices. A red hanky, for instance, signifies an interest in fisting. The creation of the leather pride flag in 1989 marked a shift from secretive symbols to public visibility in the gay leather and BDSM movements. Social media has further evolved this practice, reducing the need for physical hankies by allowing men who have sex with men (MSM) to identify sexual interests online. This digital shift helps avoid harassment and violence, making it easier to connect discreetly and safely. (Wikipedia).